Book & Street Smart

September 03, 2010

This is my go too dress. I can wear this dress everyday. You can throw it on without a bra and roll out.

Hello Tanya,

This is me Missy B from Paris. I am coming to you again because i am having a real problem that i would like to talk to you about. Since i consider you as my role model and a wise person even if i do not know a lot about you, i just feel like you are a good person and who will help me with this situation.

It has been a year since i was in that relationship with that guy. ( i know you are not doctor love). The connection between the two of us is so intense. We are really close. I am myself around him and i don’t care about have make up on or not in front of him. He makes me a better person. I have never been so close to someone. We are already talking about life together, marriage, house, kids and everything. I love his personality that is the thing that i love about him the most the thing that attracted me on the first place. That kind of personality from a guy is what i have always wanted. I know he loves me to death. But I don’t have a real physical attractiveness for him. He looks cute but i am not sexually attracted to him. We had sexual relations before and it was great but when i looked at him i am not physically attracted. I know that the physic doesn’t mean much but i don’t now what to do.

I told him yesterday that we are going to have a break then i can think about if i really love him or if he is just a friend for me.

And now i do not know what to do because i can’t decide. I just want to have your point of view based on what i just told you. I am really confused. I am thinking about fasting to get more answer to ask God to help me see things better because i don’t want to regret loosing that guy. And i think that staying with him despite my confusion would be unfair to him.

Thank you for taking your precious time to read this.

I am sorry for the mistakes I am french.

Best regards,

Missy B

Hello Missy B,

You asked the right person. I’m the one that gives all my friends advice about relationships. I think that you should fall in love with the way a person treats you. He seems to be the perfect guy so you shouldn’t let his looks deter weather you should take it to the next level. I’m gonna put it to you like this(hypothetical question) if you found out that he started dating another women because you wanted a break and you found out it was some beautiful gal would you want him to yourself then. I’m always that girl that falls in love with someone for their heart. I dated a guy same scenario and when I started dating him everyone wanted him. Does he have a nice swag to him? Does he dress nice? Is he clean cut? These are the things that seal the deal if he’s not that attractive to you and weigh the pros and cons. I personally think you’d be making a huge mistake if you let him go. Would you rather have a fine jerk that cheats on you and has no moral values, integrity or a kind considerate person that you can be yourself around. Think about it.:).