Stronger than we think!

March 08, 2011

I get emails at least twice a week on advice about relationships. I don’t feel like I’m a relationship expert by far, but what I can say is, why stay in an unhappy relationship? Some women are housewives and have no choice in the matter due to no job in addition no where to go seeing that the husband is the sole provider. In most cases like this, when the kids turn eighteen the parents get divorced because they stayed together for their family, (even though I still don’t agree with this I see the logic) but personally I couldn’t do it. If you have no kids along with being independent then you are at an advantage and really shouldn’t deal with anyone’s crap.

The more I read the more I find myself sometimes wanting to shake these women along with telling them to wake up. I also want to give them a hug and tell them “believe in yourself and you deserve better!” A man can make you feel really insecure and it happens to the best of humans, but he doesn’t have to know this little secret. When he acts up, address it, then he might act right for a couple of days, maybe weeks and a lot of times he ends up going right back to the way things were before (the disappointments) and you are miserable all over again. Before you know it you are on an emotional roller coaster wanting to eat ice cream all day wondering where the 10lbs came from:).

The key to getting through this rough patch is make sure to pray for strength in addition to staying busy. Do your own thing. Get dressed up and hit the town or you can sit at a friends house acting like you are out having fun. Some men have to feel challenged. He is your man and you should know him better than anyone else right? Let him sweat and miss you for a change. Also let him know that if he doesn’t change you are removing yourself from the situation and sometimes it can be the best thing for you. God has so much in store for you so stop being so afraid and just let him/her go and have faith in yourself… whatever it is that’s making you so unhappy is very toxic on the body, so you have to let go! Believe that God will make another way. He always comes through for me what makes you any different?

Tip of the day: Make sure he is worthy of you…